Advise on dating a widower
Here are the highlights of the discussion: In any other situation, finding a mate is all happiness, but with a widower, it can be tempered w guilt. I decided to sit down with a group of women, all who have dated a widower, and ask them about their experiences.I personally have never dated a man whose wife died, but I know plenty of women who have. Widowers feel guilty that they are still able to enjoy happiness, while the person they lost can’t.From what they tell me, dating a widower isn’t easy. They might also feel worried about other people’s perceptions.
Don’t’ make demands but make sure he knows what you need.The widower needs to learn how to be sensitive to you, as you are to him. Its hurtful to see that his identity is based on being her husband and you wonder if he can create a new identity.Also, don’t let insecurities build up about the past. Its hurtful to feel like you can’t experience a holiday without it triggering memories of her. Anything you want to say to a widower who might be reading this?That’s not easy to do if his late wife’s clothes are still hanging in her closet.Emotional challenges involve certain days of the year, like the day she died or her birthday. You have to have patience, but still be firm in letting him know what you want and need to be happy.